We know that our body is the instrument we have given ourselves in this relative universe to create matter out of thoughts. The healthier our body, the more effective we can create. We take good care of our body: eat healthy, sport, relax regularly, and we limit intake of sugar, drugs, alcohol, meat and genetically engineered ingredients.

We know that everything is an illusion, created by us, through us, for us. We can tackle any challenge on our lifepath, because we know we have put it there ourselves. In this way we see the perfection in everything that happens to us. We see it immediately, or we understand it later.
In any case, we don’t get stressed from stressful moments, unless we choose to. We don’t get sad, unless we choose to. Life gets much happier, just by choosing for happiness. We can find the joy inside, whatever happens outside.

We know that there is only one thing: the universe. We are one divine being, separated into billions of small things, in order to experience ourselves.

One thing cannot be insufficient to itself. We therefore know that if our starting point is oneness, then there is enough. If our starting point is oneness, then we understand that everything that is happening to us, happens through us: in one way or the other we feel partly responsible for everything around us.  

We feel one with people we used to call our enemies: we now start to learn from them about ourselves.

We feel one with animals and plants: we are not superior to them (one thing cannot be superior to itself) but equal. As a result we handle nature with respect.

We live in a universe of forgetfulness. Life is therefore a continuous growth in awareness: in remembering what was already there when we were still sleeping.

Someone who is more aware about how life works and what is going on in this world is not ‘better’ than someone who is less aware. (A child in the 5th class is not ‘better’ than a child in the 3rd class.)

We forgive those on any level of awarenes because we know there must be a good reason why they do the things they do, or are not aware of the consequences of their actions. We might wake them up to thank them for our experience.

Life is like a film that you made yourself and burnt on a DVD. When you live your life from day to day you are actually experiencing that film like a laser light reading that DVD.

As a laser light you don’t remember that you made that film yourself but the more you grow in awareness the more you realize that you can influence the scenes of your film: you can actually change the whole scenario of your film, just by focusing your thoughts, words and deeds.

The more focused you are, the better you will understand the illusion of your reality.

We know that we are one thing, split into billions of parts, in order to experience ourselves. Most people focus on the individual parts – and don’t feel one. We feel one, especially with those that are the most distant from us because we know we can experience most of them.
For that reason we love and embrace diversity. If everybody and everything is white, we wouldn’t know what colors are. Let’s be grateful that we live in a colorful world.

People need love to live like cars need gas to drive. People with a lot of self-love can give love to others without needing anything back. They generate their own love and in this way they are independent. They are true love makers. People who lack self-love are dependent on the love of others. The love they give is often conditional.

Self-love is not love that you receive from others but that what grows in you when you become aware of your self and copy examples of people who show a lot of self-love. Children build less self-love with parents who entirely efface themselves for their children and for their work. They easily copy the self-love shown by parents: making fun with each other and friends, indulge themselves with a small vacation just for the two of them, take one evening per week off for their own sport or hobby, etc. Self-love also grows easier when children are loved whether or not they tackle challenges in their life and whether or not parents agree with these challenges.

Self-trust grows when children achieve things in life: finally be able to reach the cookie jar on the kitchen table, manage to ride a bike, get a swimming certificate, etc. Children who regularly find tough challenges on their life path, and who tackle most of them with only a little bit of help of their environment, build the most self-trust.

Self-responsibility builds on self-love and self-trust. People with sufficient self-love and self-trust take on tough responsibilities in life. They are capable of admitting mistakes and will do anything they can to ease any damage caused by these mistakes. They take good care of their body, mind and soul because they feel responsible for themselves.

People with sufficient self-love, self-trust and self-responsibility can easily increase their self-reflection: they understand that whatever challenge they encounter on their life path, they have put it there consciously or super-consciously. Sooner or later, they manage to figure out what the message is that events brought on their path. Using this message, they manage to correct their behavior and are grateful to whoever crossed their path. They never see themselves as victims. They are honest and transparent and can show vulnerability. People with a lot of self-reflection make this world more peaceful.

People with little self-love are dependent on others for their love. They hang on their partners and often compensate for this dependence with dominance. They cannot build on a lot of self-trust. In other cases the, growth of self-trust or self-responsibility is interrupted by a sudden traumatic event, like a kidnapping or a disease. All these aspects have a negative effect on the ability for self-reflection.

People with little or no self-reflection blame others, keep their actions secret when they are controlled and point at others when they are evaluated. They can be very dangerous.

Life is a growth path in awareness. We are much more aware of life than our ancestors. Yet, we are still at the beginning of this growth path; we didn’t even scratch the top of our understanding of all-that-is.
Growth of awareness is a beneficial to humanity. We can do that very well, by carefully observing our mistakes, or by inmittance, trying to see the perfection in everything. Etc.
There is nothing we are not supposed to know. There don’t have to be any secrets. The discovery of them makes life interesting. Enjoy your growth in awareness!

When we grow in awareness, honesty will help us to face the truth about the results of our actions. Honesty in combination with the ability to take in a vuinerable position allows us to formulate what we have become aware of. First towards ourselves, then to others.

After being honest about what we have become aware of, we take responsible action. We change our behavior. This change will lead to new experiences and therefore to new opportunities to grow in awareness. Therefore, the ground rules awareness → honesty → responsibility repeat themselves eternally.

Ground rules P4, P5 and P6 belong together and relate to personal relationships. The best personal relationships are those in which the partners are not jealous, don’t expect anything from each other and don’t need each other to be happy.

Jealousy is a very common feeling in today’s society: people with little self love have become dependent upon the love of others and feel treathened when these others share their love with others as well. There are 6 billion people on this planet, but according to many, we may only love one of them unconditionally.

The way out of this challenge is to regard jealousy as a personal challenge. Not: ‘I am jealous so you….’ But ‘I am jealous so I….’ The best action you can formuloate for yourself is to grow in self love! The best way to do that is to accept yourself exactly as you are and to give love to others, unconditionally. Try to love the partner who gives their love to more than one person at the same time, is challenging but not impossible.

Ultimately you will be able to give so much unconditional love to others that you don’t need your partner’s love anymore. At that moment your jealousy will have vanished.

Ground rules P4, P5 and P6 belong together and relate to personal relationships. The best personal relationships are those, in which the partners are not jealous, don’t expect anything from each other and don’t need each other to be happy.

When you have expectations for your partner that he or she would normally not be able to meet, he or she will come back with expectations for you. If these are also expectations that you normally cannot meet, both of you will lose yourself in the relationship.

The way out of this is not to expect anything else than things that you both feel very comfortable with. For example: I cook and you do the dishes.

Ground rules P4, P5 and P6 belong together and relate to personal relationships. The best personal relationships are those, in which the partners are not jealous, don’t expect anything from each other and don’t need each other to be happy.

True happiness comes from the inside. If you need a partner to make you happy, then you can very easily become dependent on him/her. The way out of this is to find the happiness inside. First try to figure out what you are missing within yourself that you need so badly from the other. Then ask yourself: do I really need this? If yes, can I find this within myself as well?

Of course you can always enjoy doing things together. For example having sex. But if one of the partner no longer wants to have sex (with you), then that doesn’t have to be the end of the relationship. The relationship can even improve if you manage to have zero needs.

When you have mastered the ground rule C3 Oneness and C6 Collective Identity, then it should not be difficult to become unselfish. You know and experience that there is enough. You live in abundance. The belief of abundance brings you ideas and insights that will give you more from what you already have. In this position it is easy to make the step to unselfishness. Whatever you do for others, you do for yourself, because: you and the others are one; there is nobody else in the room! So if you want to be happy, make others happy. If you want more money, give money away, without expecting anything back, unconditionally.

Unselfish people often find partners that are in great need. Need for attention, love, money… Unselfish people should therefore also learn to set their boundaries, not in their own selfish interest, but in the interest of these others, to allow them to find the way to attention, love and money within themselves.

Non-materialism is the opposite of materialism: finding happiness in the acquisition and use of things. The problem with this kind of happiness is that it has its limits: your financial limits and limits to the earth’s resources. The alternative, non-materialism gives you happiness by making other people happy. This kind of happiness does not have any limits. You can give happiness as much as you want to as many people as you want. If you can build upon boundless self-love when making other people happy in a non-material way, then you have become a true Creator of Love.

We create everyday. Everything that you see around you was once someone’s thought that was turned into matter. We are all creators and very effective ones. In fact, there is nothing else we can do than to create. We create unconsciously (the growing of our hair), consciously (the construction of a building), super consciously (by using the thought-words-action process consciously and by following the advice of our inner voices) and supra consciously (by aligning these three ways of creation).

Since the creation process starts with what we believe, think or feel, be very careful with what you believe, think or feel. If you continue to do that for a long time, you will turn those thoughts or feelings into words and actions, consciously but more often super consciously.

For example: if a mother is frightened that her child is kidnapped and she continues to radiate out that fear day in, day out for years, then it is more likely that this is going to happen than when she understands the risks of kidnapping, takes appropriate preventive measures and forgets about it.

Ground Rules S1 and S2 precede S3 (Inner Voice). You need to develop your unconditional love for your self and others and you need to grow in your understanding of life before it is wise to develop your ability to listen to your inner voice.

Ground Rules S1 and S2 precede S3 (Inner Voice). You need to develop your unconditional love for your self and others and you need to grow in your understanding of life before it is wise to develop your ability to listen to your inner voice.

Your inner voice is a very effective tool to help you in your creation process. You are a two-part being: the physical body that you know very well in this relative universe. You are also your own spirit guide. (You don’t have a spirit guide, you are your own spirit guide: you in a realm where everything of the movie of your life has not been forgotten en where the script of that movie can be rewritten and reshot instantaneously.)

Your super conscious Self (your spirit guide) speaks to you through your inner voice or in any other way that is convenient to bring the messages across. It can be a newspaper article or a colleague giving you a tip. When you understand and use this process well, you will consider everything that happens to you as a message for you, put on your life path by you (the spirit guide of you).

Your spirit guide wants what you want. So if you think that your car is no longer good for you, then your spirit guide will help you to get another car, for example by giving you an accident.

If you understand this process well, the communication works best when you have mastered unconditional love (ground rule S1) and understanding, respect (ground rule S2). If you would just develop your rational side, then your inner voice might give you very cruel insights. If you would just develop your emotional side, then your inner voice might give you very loving feelings or people with whom you can share your love but you won’t understand how to turn these feelings into concrete action or you might overlook information that is right in front of your eyes.

After mastering ground rule S4 Listening to your inner voice), you will become ready to help others. Spirit guides might use you to give their messages to their people around you.

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